Today I want to talk about our duty as single women. As a single girl, one thing we keep asking ourselves while we date someone is "Is he the one?" then you will likely to project a future with him and start to fantasize how many kids you want to have, some of us might have the kids name or even the schools name picked out! And then all you can think about is your boyfriend, you give out physical, emotionally, spiritually to this guy. He is the center of your universe. That's say, if things go out of your way and you guys split up what would happen? You might think you lose the center of your universe because your relationship became so co-dependent and boyfriend-oriented. You could backout any plans you made with your family or your friends just to be with that boyfriend. At the end of the day, that dude is not your husband or anything but you may very well regard him as your husband and the only thing that worth your living so that could pretty much explain why you would feel so devastated after breaking up with someone.
The other day in Luxy, Evangelina and I were talking about the mindset of dating. She has this interesting theory of future husband. As a child of God you need to realize when we decide to follow Jesus then we will need to run as hard as possible toward Him, while you are on the running track just fix your eyes on JC don't pay attention to the things along this road of course include don't look back. While you're running so hard eventually you will discover someone is running as far as you are and then the two of you will be like "Let's get married then!" As a matter of fact, if I didn't promote this theory, you guys all knew as princess of God should be doing is to seek first His kingdom and "All" these things will be given to you as well.--Matthew 6:33
In stead of trying to seek things by your own strength how about you let go and let God intervene. Your Big Daddy was like tilt His head with his armed crossed waiting for you to let go your hand so that He could give you the gorgeous one of a kind husband He created just for you. As a single girl, your duty is different from the married ones because if you are married then you and your husband will be working as ONE BODY IN CHRIST. But as for us, our job is to bring kingdom across the nations all by ourselves, the lesson you should be learning right now is to put God as the center of universe so that while you're get married you will be not carried away by house chores, kids and your husband. That's why I always think of being single as an internship before marriage for God. Then again, while walking with Jesus as a single girl, we are not cold stone with no heart right? There comes a time that you might like someone, my advice is please pursue a friendship first before officially become boyfriend and girlfriend. Pray as hard as possible every single day at least an hour and ask God to protect your heart. While you are thinking about taking this friendship to the next level please don't make some comment such as "I ONLY WANT TO DATE SOMEONE WHO WILL BECOME MY FUTURE HUSBAND!" or "I THINK GOD WANTS YOU TO BE MY HUSBAND!" Don't use God's name to manipulate the relationship. If you are thinking about buying a car you would have taking it for a test drive so please don't put the deposit down without being sure of by using God's name. If things are going very well and you guys decide to get married please do make sure you guys do pray hard on the matter and going to pre-marriage counseling because sometime it might help to have a subjective opinion to see if it is a good fit. At the end of a date, marriage is a covenant with God so please do make sure you guys think it through and both ready to work as one in the future and don't jump into marriage because you guys want to work things out. You know what Jaeson Ma always says "screw up relationship will lead to screw up marriage. "
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